We live in a stressful world. No one will argue about that. But sometimes, as parents, we forget that our kids can experience stress just like we can. Even though they don't have jobs and the same responsibilities as adults, they have their own unique set of factors that cause stress. From school and homework to friends and sports, today's youngsters feel all sorts of pressures.
What do your kids get stressed out about?
What do you do when you sense your kids are feeling stress about something? Have you developed any effective responses or strategies to help them?
I'd love to hear what ideas you have about what works to reduce the stress in your children's lives.
This is a wonderful fact-finding question. I look forward to reading what others report here.
Do parents really know what their kids get stressed about? We might be surprised. We might even find we are unknowingly helping to create that stress rather than giving our children coping mechanisms.
Parents have stressful lives in these economic times: job loss, house foreclosure, medical issues, divorce. Our children can be silent onlookers who begin to blame themselves for their parents' problems.
Students have stressful lives in these economic times: where will their next meal come from, tests, over scheduling of extra-curricular activities, meeting their parents expectations and "earning" their love, bullying at school or on the way home.
I remember watching one of my children walking home and being bullied by a small group of older students. Once in our yard, and with me standing in the front door smiling and therefore I suppose encouraging him to stand his ground, one of the boys flattened him. As the adult I couldn't touch that boy. I could only get my child in the house and talk with him about what was happening.
My response as a mother, with a husband in the military and away from home, was to find a great male mentor, a Karate teacher, who gave my son the confidence to stand his ground knowing he could fight back but accepting that he didn't have to.
Was this a good decision. It was for him at that time. Karate offered him an opportunity to exercise his frustrations, control his emotions, and gain respect for himself and others.
I look forward to reading here what stresses your children have and what you are doing to help them overcome those stresses.
Great question. My daughter gets stressed by any timed activity, and ends up focusing more on the time that has passed than the activity at hand. Thoughts from the community on how to ease her mind, while encouraging efficient work practices?