My wife and I both work, and we have three young children (from ages 5 to 13). Luckily, my wife works from home, which gives us some flexibility. Nevertheless, when she has to travel, I find that I occasionally have to take time off from work - or ask to work from home - in order to make things work. We haven't had a true family vacation in over 3 years because our vacation/sick time has been taken up with "stuff" caused by our schedules.
My husband and I both worked from the time our children were toddlers. He took off EVERY time our children had to miss school for any reason because he worked a job that was flexible (he is a minister). As a teacher, sadly, I had to "pay" through loss of time or actual paying my sub, for any time I missed. Most of the teachers in my current school are in the same situation. If their child gets sick at our school, they call their husband to come get the child so they can stay at work!
My husband and I always worked outside the home even after we became parents. While we were raising our two daughters, my husband did more of the transporting to and from school as well as picking up the children when they were sick. We were both educators, but I worked at a local high school, and he was a college professor. He could schedule his classes with much more flexibility than I had as a public school teacher. I really missed driving my children to school, but the good part was that I had each summer off and could spend every day with my girls. My husband usually taught two summer school sessions at the university. We still had the end of July and much of August to travel together as a family.
If one of the girls was sick, I would take time off from my work to stay at home with my daughter. I had 10 sick leave days per year that I could use for family emergencies. Fortunately, these days transferred to another year if I did not use all them. If necessary, my husband could stay home with a sick child. He would just cancel class, but I had to write the lesson plans for my school substitute. I really preferred caring for a sick daughter because my husband really was not as comfortable with this challenge.
Well, in Puerto Rico me and my husban work into late because of the economy thing we have all together 2 boys in college 1 secondary daugther, and teo more boys of 20 and 16. Its very hard to balance that but each one have a responsability to help at mhome so during weekend we spend time together. We really want have much more time to spend together.